


Acting Instead of Reacting
As codependents, many of us grew up in households that were dysfunctional and traumatic. In order to cope, we developed survival skills that would carry us into adulthood. We continued to use those survival skills, even when it was plain for anyone to see they weren’t...
Detaching With Love
We all have people we are attached to. Some attachments are different than others – for instance, the attachment to our parents will be different than the attachment to our friends or partners. As love addicts and codependents, however, we often find ourselves too...
Perfection
I want to talk about the topic of perfection. As codependents and love addicts, we have striven for perfection constantly, only to be disappointed when our expectations were not met. Whether it was someone else we were trying to impress or just ourselves, we were hard...
Dating Yourself
Over the past years, I’ve done a lot of soul-searching in my recovery from codependence. I did not have my own identity, and I didn’t even know what things I really liked to do, watch, or listen to. I’d like you to ask yourself, “When was the last time that I...