We all have people we are attached to. Some attachments are different than others – for instance, the attachment to our parents will be different than the attachment to our friends or partners. As love addicts and codependents, however, we often find ourselves too attached to someone. We can’t get over our last relationship, and we cannot let go. Think about who that person could be or has been for you. Did you get over them, or are you still trying to? Now think about what is keeping you from letting go. Often, we are so loyal to someone that it ends up hurting us. Can you think of someone that you may have been overly loyal to? With the right tools, you can detach with love, too.
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So what does it mean to detach with love? It means being able to take care of yourself before taking care of anyone else. It means letting go of people, places, and things. We don’t have to give something up entirely, though sometimes that can be the most loving choice for yourself. Detaching with love is about doing what you can to take care of yourself in the most lovable, respectable manner. It’s okay to let go, and to allow them to live their lives the way they see fit.
It can be tricky to discuss detaching with love, because there is no physical representation that we can hold in our hands, or explain the directions to. This is one that we have to give to our higher power. Our higher powers will guide us to the best route to take with whoever or whatever it is we need to detach from. We can ask our higher power to help us detach with love, and to give us the strength and the courage to carry it out. Go ahead and ask your higher power for help now. The answer will come to you, but it is up to you to take action. Maybe you need to text your kids less during the workday, or maybe you need to cut ties to an ex to get over them. Whatever it is you need to do to take care of yourself, remember that it is okay to let go, and focus on yourself first.
Is there someone you need to detach with love from? What action(s) can you take today to detach from someone? Are you willing to? What support might you need? Be sure to share your thoughts and questions using the comment section below so we can all learn from and help each other…
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Definitely something I need to practice and put into place in my life. I’ve never cut anyone off or detached from them with love… I think my abandonment trauma makes me feel like I can’t leave them with nobody so I’ll stay and man does that backfire on me… it’s caused me to stay around the wrong people for growth and healing and mental health, and cost me some people that were totally worth keeping around that only wanted to see me healthy and happy. Going to try to remind myself of this when I want to reach out and will definitely start including this in my prayers and meditation with my higher power
Excellent realization Joey. Your higher power has your back and wants you to be happy and to live to your highest potential. Abandonment issues or our inner child wounds can pull us in directions that are not good for us. Always remember to make decisions from your “adult self” rather then your “inner child”. You are no longer a child helpless because now your “adult self” is there to take care and love your “inner child”. Keep up the great work. Sherry